Your Partner wants more!
by Sandra Nwangwu
It is possible to be in a relationship with a partner (regardless of gender) who although a Christian, has trouble dealing with his/her sexuality and sexual desires.
The big question is: how should the more sexually stable partner deal with this issue? There is no hard and fast standard procedure but there are guiding principles. Firstly, if your partner repeatedly requests or suggests that sexual relations is essential for the relationship, then it may just be a pointer that you are probably not in the best or healthiest relationship. The bible example of Solomon who was a man full of great wisdom and understanding and had a fantastic relationship with God, was turned from his faith to worship other gods because of his many wives. So, really, what we hear suggested to us over and over again could put us in great danger of being eventually led astray.
On the other hand, it may be a case of the stronger helping the weaker in faith. You could do the best you know how to teach and help your partner understand and deal with his/her sexuality better, but in the process, you must be careful to watch yourself.
There are also practical things to do, these include: you and your partner agreeing and literally setting real boundaries for yourselves, do the best you can to avoid watching movies that are loaded with sexual scenes, engage in more out doors activities together as opposed to being indoors alone, do not sleep in the same bed because then you’ll expose yourself to desires which you may not be able to totally control at the moment, if possible make yourselves accountable to a mature Christian who will gently and lovingly be there for you both etc.
