Managing your sexual desires
by Sandra Nwangwu
If you are having trouble managing your sexuality and sexual desires, then here are some pointers
Firstly, do not condemn yourself, because these desires that you have are only natural and you are wired to function that way. But, you must take control of your own body and you can do that by using your mind, heart and every other thing around you. It is important to know that your body could be ready for sexual relations way before your heart and mind are and also every other circumstance around you may not as well be ready. As we mature, we naturally start to develop sexual desires, some earlier than others but in the long run, most people do.
Our bodies start to speak to us and these desires creep up, but as humans we are able to control and subject our bodies. Just as with every other desire – food for example; we feel hungry and then we desire to eat food, but we can control what we eat and when we eat, no matter how strong the desire is. This control comes easier for some than others but we are all capable of such control because you tell your body what to do and when to do it. Your body may be ready for sexual relations but your mind and heart are not, because your heart and mind make the commitment to a marriage and your circumstances may not allow for marriage at the moment.
There are also practical things you could do to help you and these include: talking to God about it and asking Him for help and strength, being careful of what you watch and listen to, make yourself accountable to a mature Christian, being careful of the company you find yourself in and please don’t be afraid to walk away etc.
